Red: 9/100 Blue: 18/100 White: 9/100 Yellow: 9/100
Take the Color Code Test
by Dano
Red: 9/100 Blue: 18/100 White: 9/100 Yellow: 9/100
BLUES:
The do-gooders
Life cannot bestow on anyone
a more gratifying reward
than the sincere appreciation
and trust of a Blue friend.
Blues Are Motivated by Altruism
Blues love to do nice things for others. They look for opportunities to give up something in order to bring another person happiness. Selflessness rather than selfishness is their guiding philosophy. Many Blues are uncomfortable doing things solely for themselves. They hold doors open for people, offer rides when someone's car breaks down, contribute to charities, even devote their entire lives to helping others.
Blues Seek Intimacy
More than anything else, Blues want to love and be loved. A true Blue will sacrifice a successful career to improve an important relationship. Once considered solely a female characteristic, this nurturing is more accurately understood as a Blue personality trait.
Blues Crave Being Understood
Blues are gratified when they are listened to, when they feel understood and appreciated. They are notorious for revealing their inadequacies, because they value being known and understood so much. In the eyes of a Blue, being vulnerable is a small price to pay for the chance to connect emotionally. Blues may have their hearts broken more than most people, but they also spend much more time in love.
Blues Need to Be Remembered and Appreciated
With Blues, a simple pat on the back will not suffice. Blues expend such great effort in making the world a better place that sometimes they need to be told how wonderful they are. They need to be thanked and specifically remembered for their good deeds. They need sincere gratitude. They delight in being remembered on birthdays and other special days, especially if the remembrance is personal--a homemade anniversary card, a welcome home party, a special day that isn't on the calendar. Blues need tender loving care.
Blues Are Directed by a Strong Moral Conscience
Blues are motivated to behave in a proper, appropriate manner. They have a moral code that guides them in their decision making, their value judgments, even their leisure time. Blues enjoy being "good." Of all the personality colors, Blues come equipped with the strongest sense of integrity. A Blue would rather lose than cheat. Blues are trustworthy. Ethically, Blues are the people who should be in positions of power, but seldom are.
Blues are the most controlling personality.
They are fiercely connected to the lives they live
and often appear to be emotionally unstoppable,
as though on a mission from God.
Blue Strengths
AS AN INDIVIDUAL
Sees life as a serious endeavor.
Appreciates beauty and detail.
Has a strong aesthetic sense.
Stable and dependable (plowhorse versus racehorse.)
Sincere and emotionally deep.
Analytically oriented (concerned with why one behaves as he/she does.)
High achiever
Deep sense of purpose.
AS A COMMUNICATOR
Able to enjoy sensitive and deep conversation.
Strong skills in empathizing with others.
Remembers feelings and thoughts shared in conversation.
Willing to give conversations time to run their course.
Prefers small groups.
AS A GOAL SETTER
Highly disciplined.
Receptive to other suggestions.
Strong goal orientation.
Plans well and follows through superbly.
AS A CAREER PERSON
Excellent behind-the-scenes worker.
Respectful of employer because of employer's position.
Enjoys detail and schedules.
Receptive of creating thinking in others.
Gives more of self than required or expected.
AS A PARENT
Encourages academics and/or trade development in children.
Excellent trainer of skills (e.g., manners, study habits.)
Very observant.
Empathic & sensitive.
Sincerely loyal to children.
Excellent in long-term commitments.
Keeps home clean & cozy.
Sincerely seeks to understand children's behavior.
Self-sacrificing.
AS A CHILD
Proper & behaved.
Easily disciplined verbally.
Concerned about being a good family member.
Sensitive & concerned about other family members.
Loyal to parents and siblings regardless of quality of relationship.
Seeks learning opportunities.
AS A FRIEND
Loyal forever once friendship is established.
Genuine concern for other person's well-being.
Remembers special holidays and promotes celebrations.
Encouraging in times of trouble.
Willing to commit time to the relationship.
AS A COMMITTED COMPANION
Gives the relationship priority over other activities.
Values intimacy and places high priority on it.
Considers spouse first in decision making.
Responsible for making ongoing contribution to relationship.
Enjoys sharing intimacy and places high priority on it.
Blue Limitations
AS AN INDIVIDUAL
Highly emotional.
Smug & self-righteous.
Controlling and/or envious of others' success when too easily obtained.
Strong perfecting and performance orientation.
Verbally self-abusive.
AS A COMMUNICATOR
Has intensely held opinions on many issues.
Tends to lecture and overdiscuss issues.
Rigid with principles and unwilling to negotiate.
Fears risking self in conversation.
Argues primarily from emotional perspective.
Strong expectations for others to be sensitive & deep.
Expects others to read his or her mind & know his or her feelings.
AS A GOAL SETTER
Sets unrealistically high goals.
Easily discouraged when unsuccessful in accomplishments..
Easily frustrated by lack of team cooperation.
Expects others to understand his or her goals and make them a priority.
AS A CAREER PERSON
Feels others are not capable of doing things as well as he or she.
Craves security in career.
Feels inadequate with natural talents and creativity.
Shies away from public exposure and performance.
Establishes high and often unrealistic expectations for self and others.
Tends to overplan and overprepare.
Critical of others' work and of self.
Overextends self.
AS A PARENT
Blames children for being unappreciative of parenting efforts.
Can be moody and unpredictable.
Easily irritated by mistakes and shortcomings of others.
Usually loves with strings attached.
Tends to give heavy doses of guilt to children.
Lacks ability to relax.
Requires a purpose in order to play.
Controlling and overprotective of children.
Too precise and exact with expectations.
Feels a clean home is a high priority.
Accepts guilt feelings too easily and readily.
Not spontaneous with activities.
Frustrates children with unrealistic expectations.
Strong sense of right and wrong--badgers children if convinced they may be wrong.
AS A CHILD
Easily frustrated.
Feels guilty over minor concerns.
Moody and emotional (cries instead of facing issues rationally).
Feelings are easily hurt.
Martyr-like and complains about life.
Self-esteem is dependent on outside influences.
Has difficulty relaxing and often feels uncomfortable.
Withholds affection if angered (pouts).
Waits for parent to initiate ideas an then criticizes unacceptable suggestions.
AS A FRIEND
Highly insecure about other's acceptance and approval.
Feels rejected easily.
When depressed or depressive, feels it is friend's job to understand.
Can be revengeful and bitter if crossed or scarred emotionally.
Critical of friends' principles or activities if not similar.
Expects friends to maintain strong loyalty.
Wishes friends would communicate more often.
Rarely playful and spontaneous.
AS A COMMITTED COMPANION
Blames others for his or her unhappiness (if only you were more...").
Demands affection and intimacy.
Demands time and attention of partner.
Highly manipulative in seeking support or understanding.
Suspicious of others' motives (distrustful).
Unforgiving of past misunderstandings and wrongdoings.
Clings to companion too much.
Withholds feelings when frightened he or she may be rejected.
CAREERS MOST LIKELY TO ATTRACT BLUES
Teacher, Banker, Nurse, Homemaker, Clergy/Minister, Engineer, Psychotherapist, Accountant, Librarian, Computer Programmer, Politician, Journalist, Musician, Architect, Carpenter.
PERSONALITIES WHO APPEAR TO BE BLUES
ABRAHAM LINCOLN: Renowned for his trademark of fairness, he always sought the most noble path that would benefit all parties, if possible. He sought truth as a guiding principle in his personal and professional relationships.
PRINCESS DIANA: Always dresses appropriately, she carried herself with dignity and class. Emotions ruled her life, and she rendered herself vulnerable to the general public, continually gaining sympathy and support for herself and her causes.
WALT DISNEY: A creative genius, he loved the process more than the bottom line and relished design and details.
BLUE NATIONS
United States
England
Denmark
How to Develop a Positive Connection with Blues
Do:
Emphasize their security in the relationship.
Be sensitive and soft-spoken in your approach.
Be sincere and genuine.
Behave appropriately and well mannered.
Limit their risk level.
Promote their creativity.
Appreciate them.
Allow ample time for them to gather their thoughts before expressing themselves.
Be loyal.
Do thorough analysis before making presentations.
Don't:
Make them feel guilty.
Be rude or abrupt.
Promote too much change.
Expect spontaneity.
Abandon them.
Expect them to bounce back easily or quickly from depression.
Demand perfection (they already expect too much from themselves.)
Push them too quickly into making decisions.
Expect them to forgive quickly when crossed.
Demand immediate action or quick verbal bantering.
Recommended Time-Management Tips for Blues
Thinks rationally rather than reactively when pressured. Emotionalism can create chaos and unnecessary distress.
Clearly state your limits when others impose deadlines on you.
Settle for less. Perfectionism often narrows your focus, causing you to ignore other important aspects of your life.
Don't set unrealistic expectations for yourself or others to the extent that everyone feels overwhelmed. Simply see goals as road markers rather than criteria for success.
Don't personalize your interactions with other people. Blues often suffer from feeling let down by others or from quitting because they let others down. Concentrate on the task at hand rather than becoming emotionally discouraged or critical.
See time management as a compromise rather than "all or nothing." If you fail to meet a deadline, learn to punt. It will free you to be more creative and less self-critical.
Realize that there are limits to what you can control. You cannot control other people.
Set a ten-minute time limit to worry about any topic in the day. When your time is up, so is your worrying. Get on with living in the present moment and doing what you can do rather than focusing on what is our of your control.
"If you love someone, set them free.
If they come back, they're yours;
if not, hunt them down and kill them!"
REDS:
THE POWER WIELDERS
Reds have the most dominant, intimidating personality.
Expressing themselves emotionally is uncomfortable
and creates the vulnerability they typically avoid.
Reds Are Hungry for Power
Simply stated, Reds want their own way. If they have been raised in environments where they were able to manipulate their parents and siblings, they become difficult to manage as they get older. When they have gotten their way for too long, Reds find it almost impossible to relinquish their power and freedom when they meet authorities in society (teachers, bosses, police, clergy, military officers) who refuse to grant them the total control they demand.
Reds Want to Be Productive
Reds like to work --- in school, in their careers, and in their relationships. Just don't expect them to attach the same importance to things other people care about --- like other people's schooling, careers, and marriages. But give them a reason to produce and watch them take off. Reds like to get the job done. They are often workaholics. They will, however, resist being forced to do anything that doesn't interest them.
Reds Want to Look Good to Others
Reds need to appear knowledgeable. They crave approval from others for their intelligence and insight. They want to be respected even more than they want to be loved. They want to be admired for their logical, practical minds. When you deal with a Red, be precise and factual. Reds are unmoved by tears and other displays of "weakness."
Reds Shouldn't Be Taken Too Seriously
Reds are often just stating the facts as they see them, despite their antagonistic demeanor. They seldom say "in my opinion" before stating their opinions. I have seen too many Blues, Whites, and yellows become greatly concerned over issues raised by Reds, only to discover later that the Reds were simply interested in debating. Reds enjoy a good power play. But once you get emotionally involved arguing issues, you may be disappointed and frustrated to find that a Red is no longer interested.
Reds Seek Leadership Opportunities
Despite the rigidity of the military, many young Red men and women select it as a career in order to experience leadership. Reds are often called "control freaks." They like to be on the driver's seat. Red children are often frustrated in school because teachers (often Blue personalities) won't let them take charge. If a Red can get the upper hand, he or she will. Reds are willing to pay any price for an opportunity to lead.
Reds are so decisive.
If they make 51 percent of the decisions right
they're happy, because they know the other 49 percent
would have worked, but you screwed up.
RED STRENGTHS
AS AN INDIVIDUAL
Excels with logical thinking.
Committed to a productive lifestyle.
Dynamic and direct.
Thrives on independence.
Natural leader.
Highly resourceful (strong survivor.)
Creative in crises.
"For Reds, winning isn't everything,
it's the only thing."
AS A COMMUNICATOR
Operates in a very logical, sensible manner.
Direct and honest with opinions.
Communicates thoughts well verbally.
Directs the conversation in a productive, pragmatic way.
Tells others where they stand in a relationship.
AS A GOAL SETTER
Natural goal setter--sets goals comfortably and confidently.
Maintains strong sense of perspective (sees the whole picture.)
Highly disciplined.
Highly productive with follow-through.
Makes decisions quickly and easily.
Strong goal orientation (wants to move up the ladder.)
AS A CAREER PERSON
Thrives in leadership positions.
Comfortable with power (as long as he or she has it.)
Excellent organizer.
Delegates superbly
Quick to make decisions and handles responsibilities well.
Self-motivated.
Thrives on competition.
Dynamic and assertive.
Highly task-oriented and efficient.
Confident of ability to achieve.
Trusts own business instincts--difficult to discourage.
AS A PARENT
Excellent decision maker.
Unquestioned as leader in home.
Assumes responsibility for protecting family.
Excellent provider.
Quick with good advice and direction.
Promotes group cohesiveness or comfortable being alone.
Promotes children's activities.
AS A CHILD
Communicates what he or she is thinking.
Highly verbal.
Strong sense of independence.
Willing to risk and try new experiences.
Takes charge of situation when parents are gone.
Capable of bouncing back in negative environment.
Maintains the power to turn a poor situation around.
Believes in self--maintains high self-esteem.
AS A FRIEND
Direct and quick with suggestions.
Great in emergencies and disasters.
Promotes group activities.
Engages in conflict comfortably and directly.
Productive in solving dilemmas.
AS A COMMITTED COMPANION
Highly protective of companion
Loyal to the relationship.
Promotes interesting experiences.
Takes primary responsibility for financial needs.
Reliable and dependable.
Initiates interaction and activities.
RED LIMITATIONS
AS AN INDIVIDUAL
Generally seeks to serve self (what's in it for me?)
Promotes turmoil and conflict when a personal goal is to be gained.
Out of touch with own feelings.
Rationalizes and denies own failings.
Always right.
Cannot relax and feel comfortable unless producing something.
Often arrogant and defiant of authority.
Inconsiderate of other's feelings (selfish)
Won't admit inadequacies for fear of losing power and control.
AS A COMMUNICATOR
Unemotional and detached from feelings.
Insensitive and tactless.
Unappreciative of detail and beauty.
Bored with "idle chatter."
Little emotional perspective makes for poor insight to others.
Intuition is jaded by personal insecurities and judgments.
Harsh and judgmental.
Lacks ability to share self intimately.
Poor listener.
AS A GOAL SETTER
Impatient with self in completing goals.
Too rigid with expectations of his or her destiny.
Lives life on paper rather than with people.
Encourages quantity rather than quality.
Angers easily of goals aren't achieved or are blocked.
Blames others for personal misfortunes.
AS A CAREER PERSON
Seeks power in order to control others.
Refuses to relax--drives self and others.
Dislikes being told what to do.
May be insensitive to others in order to get ahead in business.
Makes decisions too quickly.
Doesn't often think the problem through or consult others for advice.
Less concerned with people than task completion.
Requires others' loyalty and obedience.
Authoritarian and uncompromising.
Critical of others and slow to give compliments.
Often too competitive to enjoy the competition.
AS A PARENT
Expects high performance without offering assistance.
Wants strict obedience.
Requires loyalty from family at all costs.
Unfeeling and insensitive to children's fears and concerns.
Requires the final say on important decisions.
Detached from children--doesn't share self emotionally.
Does not tolerate deviations from set expectations.
Establishes harsh and limiting boundaries.
Poor listener.
Impatient with play and other nonessential trivia.
Lacks insight into children's emotional needs.
Difficult to please--remains unimpressed.
Strong sense of right & wrong--badgers child when perceived as wrong.
AS A CHILD
Expends high energy manipulating parents to get own way.
Often defiant.
Resists control--feels he or she knows more than parents.
Critical of parents.
Fights constantly with siblings for control and power.
Subconsciously hides insecurities and emotional needs.
Aloof and distant from family.
Highly independent or requires others to entertain him or her.
Demanding--parents can never do enough right.
Finds it difficult to give sincere compliments.
Dramatic & overreactive to pain.
Expects to be catered to, especially when sick.
Poor listener.
AS A FRIEND
Insensitive and unemotional.
Doesn't like to admit the need for friendships.
Remains detached from sharing self completely.
Enters friendships asking, "What's in it for me?"
Listens only when convenient.
Maintains mostly rational friendships.
Tries to control group activities.
Expects friends to do things his or her way.
Impatient with others.
Negative, critical, and judgmental of others.
Feels it is more important to be right than agreeable.
Blunt or rude when angered.
Boring.
Expects to be entertained while waiting for action to begin.
Stubborn
Denies any personal inadequacies or responsibility.
AS A COMMITTED COMPANION
Primarily concerned with self-gratification.
Gives priority to work over personal relationships.
Demanding & arrogant.
Hides insecurities.
Critical of companion for imperfections.
Lacks sensitivity.
Often unaware of intimacy and rejects its priority in a relationship.
Poor listener.
CAREERS MOST LIKELY TO ATTRACT REDS
Administrator, Lawyer, Building Contractor, Police Officer, Medical Doctor, Sales, Military Officer, Tax Accountant, Marketing, Politician, Realtor, Clergy (Minister), Entrepreneur, Professional Critic, School Superintendent.
PERSONALITIES WHO APPEAR TO BE REDS
HILLARY CLINTON: Tenacious and confident in her own abilities, she publicly ignores the continued allegations of her husband's infedelities. Her motto seems to be, "Just get me to the White House, Bill, where I can do something meaningful, then we can talk."
THE REVEREND BILLY GRAHAM: When he first went to Russia to preach about God, someone reminded him that they were all Communists (and thus atheists) over there. To this, he stood proud and said, "Not when I'm done, they won't be," and confidently took them his message of Christianity.
MADONNA: What haven't we seen already? And yet she continues to self-promote with a passion that cannot be ignored.
RED NATIONS
China
Japan
Germany
How to Develop a Positive Connection with Reds
Do:
Present issues logically.
Demand their attention and respect.
Do your homework!
Be direct, brief, and specific in conversation.
Be productive and efficient.
Offer them leadership opportunities.
Verbalize your feelings.
Support their decisive nature.
Promote their intelligent reasoning where appropriate.
Be prepared with facts and figures.
Respect their need to make their own decisions their own way.
Don't:
Embarrass them in front of others.
Argue from an emotional perspective.
Always use authorative approach.
Use physical punishment (you don't know what you're getting into).
Be slow and indecisive.
Expect a personal and intimate relationship.
Attack them personally.
Take their arguments personally.
Wait for them to solicit your opinion.
Demand constant social interaction (allow for alone time.)
Recommended Time-Management Tips for Reds
Connect with others emotionally and socially. It motivates them to be more forthright and cooperative in helping you accomplish your agenda.
Praise and promote the positive in others, helping them focus on shared priorities. Negative or critical attitudes and behaviors can create fear, driving people to the crisis, reaction, or escape quadrants.
Relax. Rome wasn't built in a day. Being overly demanding of yourself and others doesn't breed confidence or quality.
Set goals for yourself that you can achieve with your strong discipline. Set different goals and accept different styles when dealing with groups.
Avoid blaming others for failing to meet commitments, which is often a natural reaction for Reds in a crisis.
Think your problems through and seek others' advice when organizing your life. Reds can make hasty decisions and ignore the needs or perceptions of others who are affected.
Realize that you can't do it all. Be open to suggestions. Brain-storming ideas and solutions with others will save you time and improve others' morale
Be careful about imposing your demands on others' time. You don't want them to feel invalidated in meeting their own agendas.
"Your gene pool could use a little chlorine."
WHITES:
THE PEACEKEEPERS
Whites offer us all
a model for gentle
human dignity.
Whites Are Motivated by Peace
Whites will do almost anything to avoid confrontation. They like to flow through life without hassle or discomfort. Feeling good is even more important to them than being good.
Whites Need Kindness
While Whites respond beautifully to thoughtfulness and amiability, they have a strong, silent stubbornness that surfaces when they are treated unkindly. They resent being scolded. They dislike harsh words. They open up instantly to people who are kind, but Whites recoil from those who are hostile. They are motivated by kindness--and can't understand why other people are unkind.
Whites Prefer Quiet Strength
Whites enjoy their quiet independence. What appears to some people as quiet desperation can show itself as bullheadedness. Those who misinterpret the peace-loving nature of a White as an invitation to be demanding and bossy will soon meet a wall of passive resistance. Whites are tougher than people think.
Whites Like to Keep a Low Profile
Whites like to be asked their opinions. They won't volunteer them. They value the respect of others, but they rarely go out of their way to seek it. They need to be coaxed to talk about their skills, hobbies, and interests.
Whites Are Independent
Unlike Reds and Blues, who want to control others, Whites seek only to avoid being controlled. They simply refuse to be under another's thumb, especially when treated without the respect they feel they deserve. Whites want to do things their own way, in their own time. They don't ask much of others, and resent it when others demand things from them. They often comply with unreasonable demands--just to keep peace. They will express their anger and frustration only when they can no longer stand being bossed around. WHites don't like to be pushed, and they can be fearsome when they finally "blow up."
Whites Are Motivated by Other People's Desires
Whites are open to the recommendations of others on ways to resolve any and all situations. White executives value new management ideas from employees. White children welcome help--they are receptive students. Whites make agreeable dates. They are interested in making sure the other person has a good time, and are willing to do whatever the other person wants. Whites, however, want suggestions--not demands.
"I finally got it together,
but forgot where to put it."
WHITE STRENGTHS
AS AN INDIVIDUAL
Quiet, reflective, and peaceful.
Sincere and genuine lifestyle.
Appears to accept like comfortably.
Patient with self and others.
Enjoys life's simplicity.
Compatible with others.
Kind to animals and people.
Blends into all situations.
AS A COMMUNICATOR
Receptive to others' input.
Negotiator and mediator on issues.
Listens superbly.
Strong empathy skills.
AS A CAREER PERSON
Accommodates others easily.
Handles bureaucratic environments well.
Negotiates well.
Calm under pressure.
Prefers slower pace and "think" time.
Sometimes puts self in dangerous occupations for excitement.
Nonconformist.
AS A PARENT
Flows well with crisis.
Takes time to enjoy each child.
Agreeable with difficult children.
Respected by children for gentle manner and style.
Slow to react with anger.
Supportive and considerate.
Accepts companion's decision--demonstrates unity.
Patient with deviant and inappropriate behavior.
Accepts differences superbly.
AS A CHILD
Very agreeable to established traditions and boundaries.
Nondemanding.
Willing to accommodate siblings and parents.
Plays well by self.
Accepts life with drama.
AS A FRIEND
Patient and enduring through good and bad times.
Tolerant of unkind behavior.
Supportive and accepting.
Listens with empathy.
Relaxed in most situations.
Likes most people.
Liked by most people.
Compatible with different personalities.
Enjoys observing others.
Nondemanding of friendship.
AS A COMMITTED COMPANION
Tolerant of others' tardiness.
Can entertain self easily.
Appreciates leadership qualities in others.
Loyal and committed to relationship.
Willing to accept beliefs and values of companion.
WHITE LIMITATIONS
AS AN INDIVIDUAL
Boring because detached.
Takes passive approach to life.
Unresponsive or not openly excited about experiences.
Has problems becoming intimate.
Bashful and unsure of self.
Easily manipulated into changing plans.
Ambivalent about direction and goals to pursue.
Often lazy and unwilling to take responsibility for self.
Resists making commitments.
AS A COMMUNICATOR
Fearful of confrontation.
Unable to respond quickly in conversation.
Dishonest with feelings--often agrees only to please others.
Hesitant to engage others in conversation.
Doesn't contribute openly.
Accepts others' decisions without seeking best solution.
Gives very little energy to conversation unless forced to.
Refuses to take a stand on issues.
Prefers to observe others interact.
AS A GOAL SETTER
Takes a "wait and see" attitude to life experiences.
Waits for a sign or for someone else to make decisions for them.
Lacks consistency in goal setting.
Sees goals as demanding and therefore restrictive.
Waits for others to set his or her goals and then criticizes the goals set for him or her.
AS A CAREER PERSON
Low profile.
Low energy.
Directionless--requires leadership from others.
Resents strong direction and leadership from others.
Works at a slow pace.
Resists power dominance of other personalities.
Difficult to motivate and inspire.
Fears change and risk taking.
Willing to stay in same monotonous job.
Easily manipulated by others when unmotivated or unconcerned.
AS A PARENT
Refuses to engage in conflict with spouse about children.
Doesn't initiate activities and interaction with children.
Poor disciplinarian.
Works obsessively to maintain peace.
Poor leadership and delegation with children.
Easily abused by children when promoting unpopular ideas.
Easily controlled or ignored by spouse or children.
AS A CHILD
Resents being pressured to do things.
Doesn't contribute much to conversations.
Contributes quietly to family activities.
Waits for parent to initiate ideas and then criticizes unacceptable suggestions.
Prefers the comforts of home to the demands of the world.
Indifferent to family dilemmas.
Uninvolved in family action.
Doesn't complete tasks.
AS A FRIEND
Lacks creativity to make suggestions.
Easily led by others' opinions.
Won't express honest perception if controversial.
Passive.
Requires extra protection and a lot of support.
Easily hurt and defeated.
AS A COMMITTED COMPANION
Prefers the other person to lead.
Boring and indecisive.
Too accommodating.
Won't make suggestions for activities.
Willing to let life and love pass him or her by.
May experience difficulty initiating relationships.
Feels too inadequate to take a stand and voice opinions.
Not emotional about intimate relationships.
CAREERS MOST LIKELY TO ATTRACT WHITES
Forest ranger, Dentist, Bureaucrat, Computer programmer, Military service, Recreation leader, Researcher, Homemaker, Police officer, Preschool teacher, Veterinarian, Lawyer, Engineer, F.B.I. agent, Truck driver
Note: Whites & Yellows are usually least motivated to succeed in the career world.
PERSONALITIES WHO APPEAR TO BE WHITES
ALBERT EINSTEIN: A genius and highly observant, he let his thinking do his talking. Personally withdrawn, he was most comfortable in the world of ideas and intellectual exchange. He preferred quietly doing the research for his remarkable theories behind the scenes, rather than heralding their importance to the public.
MICHAEL JACKSON: Multitalented professionally and yet personally self-effacing, he listens well but verbalizes very little. Prefers quiet, limited personal connections.
JIMMY CARTER: Better thought as a world diplomat than a savvy political force, he exudes kindness and a quiet dignity. He never displays zealous egotism, but walks softly and carries a big stick.
WHITE NATIONS
Finland
Switzerland
Canada
How to Develop a positive Connection with Whites
Do:
Be kind.
Be logical, clear, and firm about the content you present.
provide a structure (boundaries) for them to operate in.
Be patient and gentle.
Introduce options and ideas for their environment.
Be simple and open.
Acknowledge and accept their individuality.
Be casual, informal, and relaxed in presentation style.
Look for nonverbal clues to their feelings.
Listen quietly.
Don't:
Be cruel or insensitive.
Expect them to need much social interaction.
Force immediate verbal expression; accept written communication.
Be domineering or too intense.
Demand conformity to unrealistic expectations/behaviors.
Overwhelm them with too much at once.
Force confrontation.
Speak too fast.
Take away all of their daydreams.
Demand leadership.
Recommended Time-Management Tips for Whites
State verbally how you feel and what you perceive about yourself, current tasks, and others' behavior. Whites are vulnerable to wasting energy because they can't accurately identify how they feel and present it confidently to others.
Empower yourself by addressing issues rather than avoiding them.
Conflict can be enriching. Share your ideas and seek others' input, rather than taking their feedback personally. See them as enlightening and broadening your horizons. Time management in a vacuum can be limiting and dangerous.
Seek a sense of urgency. Whites can miss living passionate lives by refusing to get excited about projects and people. DOn't let time pass you by.
Set proactive agendas, rather than merely reacting to agendas others set for you. Proactive attitudes will challenge your natural tendency to being passive-aggressive.
Don't be overly defensive when others seem demanding. Focus on what is being said rather than how it's being said.
Risk a little. Set goals that require effort and build confidence rather than taking a "wait and see" attitude.
Make the effort to control daydreams that rob you of valuable time to get legitimate work done.
"I used to be apathetic,
but now I just don't care."
Yellows:
The Fun Lovers
Happy is as happy does. Yellow people love themselves
because they know exactly what they love to do
and always find the time and resources to do it.
Yellows Value Play
Yellows consider life to be a party. And they're hosting. One father (Blue) was disappointed when his son (Yellow) preferred spending time with friends instead of with him. I reminded the father that his son was motivated by fun, and suggested that he should try to come up with activities that his son felt were exciting. It was the "better offer" principle--and it worked. Yellows just want to have fun.
Yellows Welcome Praise
Yellows need to be noticed. Little else improves a relationship with a Yellow more than praise. Yellows need to know they are valued and approved of. Yellows often act as though they have the world by the tail, but they do have their fears and frustrations--which they rarely confide until they know they are emotionally safe. Safety is most effectively evidenced to Yellows through praise.
Yellows Need Emotional Connections
Yellows often appear so nonchalant that people think they don't care about anything. Nothing could be further from the truth. Yellows need a great deal of attention. They need to be stroked. Yellows enjoy touching. To them, physical contact is often the most direct, comfortable intimate connection.
Yellows Want to Be Popular
Yellows like to be center stage. Social acceptance is very important to them. Friendships command a high priority in their lives because popularity answers one of their basic needs--the need for general approval. Yellows are highly verbal. They relish good conversation, but they can also simply go with the flow. Yellows can superficially chitchat with the best of them.
Yellows Like Action
Easily bored, Yellows seek adventure. They can never sit still for long. They choose friends who, like them, refuse to allow the "boring details" to get in the way of the most important thing in life--play. Ironically, numerous people are currently misdiagnosed as having ADD (Attention Deficit Disorder) when, in fact, they are merely Yellow personalities struggling with their innate inability to sit still very long and/or stay focused.
"I get enough exercise just pushing my luck."
YELLOW STRENGTHS
AS AN INDIVIDUAL
Highly optimistic (rarely depressed.)
Likes self and accepts others easily.
Loves to volunteer for opportunities.
Sees life as an experience to be enjoyed.
Flashy (racehorse rather than plowhorse.)
Adventurous and daring.
AS A COMMUNICATOR
Thinks quickly on his or her feet and can express this spontaneously.
Enjoys and promotes being physical (hugs, touching.)
Easy to converse with.
Comfortable with people.
Able to express self directly in conflict.
Energized by large groups.
Superb at superficial conversation.
AS A GOAL SETTER
Appreciates and lives for the present.
Gives priority to playtime.
Very flexible.
Accepts guidance from others.
Disciplined if he or she finds the task fun and challenging.
Demands action rather than study.
AS A CAREER PERSON
People-oriented.
Friendly.
Able to take risks.
High energy.
Inspires colleagues and subordinates to cooperate and excel.
Charismatic and enjoyable to work with.
Breaks up monotony of work world.
Likes to tackle short-term projects with visible results.
Enjoys dressing up and also comfortable with casual attire.
Supports dreams and intuitive thinking.
AS A PARENT
Highly entertaining.
Promotes fun family activities.
Excellent short-term leader.
Finds touching children natural and comfortable.
Flows easily with negative experiences.
Turns crisis into comedy.
Nonjudgmental about children's friends.
Children enjoy their company and seek them out.
Concern themselves with the broad picture rather than the details.
AS A CHILD
Fun to have around.
Playful and entertaining.
Enjoys new experiences.
Accepting of differences.
Loves to socialize (brings friends home).
Easy to talk to.
Strong visual learner.
Loves physical contact (hugging, kissing.)
Pliable--willing to bend in order to please.
Curious and inquisitive.
AS A FRIEND
Exciting and fun to be with (never dull or boring.)
Often places friends before family.
Forgiving of self and others.
Lively and entertaining.
Vulnerable, innocent, and trusting.
Endearing.
Willing to free up schedule in order to play.
AS A COMMITTED COMPANION
Brings excitement to spouse.
Promotes romance with a creative flair.
Enjoys unusual experiences.
Not burdened with emotional baggage.
Has few expectations of others.
Agreeable to change.
Accepts others' suggestions.
YELLOW LIMITATIONS
AS AN INDIVIDUAL
Needs to look good socially (high priority.)
Irresponsible and unreliable.
Self-centered and egotistical.
Flighty and uncommitted.
Lots of talk with little action.
Superficial and mostly interested in a good time.
Unwilling to experience pain in order to produce quality.
Undisciplined.
Loud and obnoxious in public places.
Exaggerates successes and omits unpleasant truths.
Unable to confront or face issues.
AS A COMMUNICATOR
Often speaks before thinking.
Unsympathetic about depression in others.
Makes insensitive jokes about serious and sensitive issues.
Lightminded and superficial.
Often repetitious.
Interrupts others freely.
Overly dramatic in expressing self (often uses superlatives.)
Often talks too much about everything and nothing.
Poor listener.
Forgets what others have said.
AS A GOAL SETTER
Terribly undisciplined in committing to goals.
prefers to play today rather than plan for tomorrow.
Feels no need to prepare for the future.
Restless and finds it difficult to stick with long-term goals.
More interested in appearing onstage than writing the script.
Disorganized and scattered in too many directions.
AS A CAREER PERSON
Requires that all activities be fun.
Can handle stress only for short periods of time.
Poor concentration for any length of time.
Unwilling to dedicate self to a cause without vacations.
Resents authority and defiant to leaders.
Sloppy and unpredictable.
Needs a lot of interaction with people.
Takes few things seriously.
AS A PARENT
Self-centered and more concerned about self than children's needs.
More interested in enjoying children than teaching them.
Can be sarcastic with children.
Unwilling to spend a lot of time and energy on children's behalf.
Inconsistent with discipline.
Irresponsible and too permissive with children.
Bad role model for positive work habits.
Lacks discipline for housecleaning or providing stable income.
AS A CHILD
Sassy and demanding.
Defiant of authority.
Forgetful of assignments and parental expectations.
More concerned with friends than family.
Teases siblings constantly.
Insensitive to parents' responsibilities or needs.
Prefers to take the easy road whenever possible.
Shows little concern for family problems and responsibilities.
Unconcerned with financial issues.
AS A FRIEND
Spends most of time discussing own life.
Shows up at his or her convenience.
Undependable in a crisis.
Unwilling to commit to long-term needs of distressed friends.
Pursues own life regardless of friends' situations or needs.
Uncomfortable in painful or distressing environments.
Makes new friends easily and without guilt, often at the expense of old friends.
AS A COMMITTED COMPANION
Uncommitted and flighty in long-term relationships.
Undependable and inconsiderate of the needs of others.
Prefers to enter a relationship knowing there is an escape.
Unwilling to hang in there during the difficult times.
Quick-tempered in unpleasant circumstances requiring patience.
Unwilling to invest time in personal growth to improve relationships.
Capable of ignoring the feelings of others and focusing on self.
CAREERS MOST LIKELY TO ATTRACT YELLOWS
Firefighter, International consultant, Travel agent, Recreational leader, Lifeguard, Beautician, Entertainer, Tour guide, Circus performer, Insurance agent, Secretary, Receptionist, Sales, Retail, Clergy/Minister
Note: Yellows are generally least capable of consistently committing to the requirements for financial success or the career world.
PERSONALITIES WHO APPEAR TO BE YELLOWS
BILL CLINTON: President Clinton has magically survived a myriad of assaults on his personal character and professional competence, but he never runs for cover. His winning smile and positive manner help people trust him. He is intellectually bright and verbally quick, making him difficult to pin down or ever catch off-guard.
RONALD REAGAN: One of America's most adored presidents, Ronald Reagan's trademark was optimism and charisma. He spoke with conviction and always exuded an inviting warmth. He carried himself with a carefree confidence that put others at ease around him.
ELVIS PRESLEY: Dynamic and rebellious. His vulnerability and trusting nature were charming and disarming. He was personable and generous. He lived for the moment, and his naivete and emotionalism caused irrational decisions to prematurely end his scattered brilliance as a performer. As with all good Yellows, people are still hoping to find him alive so the party can continue.
YELLOW NATIONS
Mexico
Australia
Brazil
How to Develop a Positive Relationship with Yellows
Do:
Be positive and proactive with them in your life.
Adore and praise them legitimately.
Touch them physically.
Accept their playful teasing.
Remember they are more sensitive than they appear.
Value their social interaction skills and people connections.
Remember they hold feelings deeply.
Promote creative and fun activities for and with them.
Enjoy their charismatic innocence.
Allow them opportunity for verbal expression.
Don't:
Be too serious or sober in criticism.
Push them too intensely.
Ignore them.
Forget they have "down" time also.
Demand perfection.
Expect them to dwell on problems.
Give them too much rope, or they may hang themselves.
Classify them as just lightweight social butterflies.
Attack their sensitivity or be unforgiving.
Totally control their schedules or consume their time.
Recommended Time-Management Tips for Yellows
Realize that "busyness" is not necessarily the same as purposeful action. Reflect on what is important and give it legitimate attention.
Set specific goals each day and prioritize them. Start working on your A1. Do them in order.
Focus on "what's necessary" rather than "what's fun." Quality requires both. Don't let others take on the responsibility of handling your "necessary" tasks.
Set achievable "time bits" where you focus on a specific task for a specific amount of time and create a fun reward for sticking to it. Break up the monotony.
Commit to the bigger picture. Create a long-term plan of substance and seek specific activities you can complete to make it a reality.
Balance undemanding creativity with focused commitments. You'll feed both your need for unstructured play and your need for accomplishment.
Do a little planning up front so you "get it right" the first time. You'll save yourself tremendous time.
Face the issues rather than spending time on trivia.
Listen well so you don't have to interrupt others for information already presented.
"Hard work may not kill me,
but why take a chance?"
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